Insomnia is defined as the inability to fall asleep or stay asleep a long as desired. This is a sleep disorder that millions of people all over the world struggle constantly with it people with insomnia have difficulty either falling asleep or stay asleep for long enough to completely relax the body thus they wake up still feeling fatigued. It is often thought of as a symptom that can accompany several medical and psychiatric disorders. The common causes of Insomnia include;

SLEEP HYGIENE

Poor sleep hygiene such as

Eating just before sleeping

Exercise prior to sleep

Going to be hungry

Doing work in bed-can trigger insomnia in persons

MEDICAL CONDITIONS

Certain medical conditions can induce insomnia

Asthma,

Congestive heart failure,

Obesity,

Chronic pain,

Acid reflux

Parkinson’s disease e.t.c

If insomnia is caused by any of these medical conditions, it’s best to seek professional help fast.

PSYCHIATRIC CONDITIONS

It is often said that there is no sleep for the eyes whilst the mind is still awake.  An unsettled mind would find it pretty difficult to fall asleep. Hence conditions such as depression, anxiety, stress, post traumatic stress disorder can cause insomnia.

Other likely causes of insomnia include

Menopause, menstrual cycle, pregnancy, fever, pain, illicit drug use, excess caffeine in the system, smoking alcohol intoxication, grief, physical discomfort, jet lag, un-familiar environment.

 Insomnia is very common and affects people of all ages however it is most rampant in elderly. Insomnia is commonly separated into three types:

TRANSIENT INSOMNIA: It is very short phase of sleeplessness, lasting less than a week in most cases

ACUTE INSOMNIA:  Acute insomnia also called short-term insomnia or stress related insomnia, it is the inability to consistently initiate or maintain sleep for a short period of time (less than a month, usually for about three weeks).

CHRONIC INSOMNIA: As the name goes, it is the highest form of insomnia usually lasting over a month. The majority of chronic insomnia are secondary thus they are symptoms of other health conditions or diseases. People with high levels of stress hormones or shifts in the levels of cytokines are more vulnerable to chronic insomnia

UGLY SIDE EFFECTS OF INSOMNIA

Insomnia is a very difficult condition on its own, yet it causes several other Psychological and Physical harm to people suffering from it. Some of the very ugly side effects on insomnia include

1.     OBESITY

Recent research focused on the link between sleep and the peptides [Ghrelin and Leptin] that regulates appetite (Ghrelin stimulates hunger and Leptin signals satiety to the brain and suppress appetite) show that reduced sleep time is associated with decrease in Leptin and increase in Ghrelin levels thus stimulating appetite and not just appetite, it increases the cravings for high-fat and high-carbohydrate foods. People who sleep less than six hours a day are almost 30% more likely to become obsess than those who slept seven to nine hours (2004 study).

2.     DEPRESSION

In a 2007 study of 10,000 people, those with insomnia were five times more likely to get depressed compared to others without insomnia. Insomnia and depression are twin-evil and most often accompany each other, Sleep loss often aggravates the symptoms of depression, and depression can make sleeping more difficult.

3.     KILLS SEX DRIVE

Research conducted by sleep specialist, have shown that sleep-deprived individuals have lower libidos and less sex interest.

4.     IMPAIRS JUDGMENT

Lack of sleep affects ones interpretation of things and events thus affecting ability to make good judgment of things.

5.     FORGETFULNESS

It is important to get quality sleep if you want to keep your memory sharp.  An American and French research conducted in 2009 to determine that brain events called “sharp wave ripples” are responsible for consolidating memory, the ripples also transfer learned information from the hippo campus to the neo-cortex of the brain, where long term memories are stored; Sharp wave ripples occur mostly during the deepest levels of sleep.

6.     AGING FAST

Persistent sleep loss can lead to lackluster skin, fine lines and dark circles may start to appear under the skin. When you don’t sleep right, your body reacts by releasing more stress hormone (cortisol). The cortisol released can break down the skin collagen (which is the protein that keeps the skin smooth and elastic). Sleep loss can also impair growth.

7.     SERIOUS HEALTH COMPLICATIONS

Although insomnia can be a symptom of some health conditions, chronic insomnia can put one at risk of several deadly health problems such as:

Heart disease

Heart attack/ failure

High blood pressure

Stroke

Diabetes

8.     DEATH

Well we had it coming, with all the complications that accompany chronic insomnia it is no surprise to see that at the end of it. A research on 100,00 British civil servants in 2007, showed that those who reduced their sleep time from 7 to 5 hours or less at night, had a doubled risk of death compared to others who had a  lengthy sleep. 

The good news however is that insomnia itself is very treatable, do consult your doctor or psychiatrist for professional help. Many people with insomnia feel more refreshed when they get proper treatment and finally begin to sleep properly….Good Luck!!!

Anti-aging products are used for averting or slowing down the effects of aging among individuals. Some of them have been around for a long time while others are newly introduced. The desire of many people to look younger has enhanced the anti-aging product industry into a multi-billion dollar one.

Anti-aging products are traceable to ancient Egypt when herbs like olive leaves were used to promote longevity. In other cultures like India and China, there were developed traditions of herbal usage and the traditions are still kept up till now. In modern times, these products are used to bring down the physical appearance of aging like sun spots, wrinkles and skin damage. Some of them are targeted at middle-aged people so that the effect of aging would be reversed. Other products are produced in form of preservatives so that aging could be stopped or slowed down before it begins. There are lots of anti-aging products in the market and they can be grouped into three major categories; hormones, anti-oxidants and herbal products. Hormones do not affect aging process directly but they mask its symptoms and that is why they are referred to as reverse-aging products. Anti-oxidants are some of the popular products around and they include vitamins like A, C and E. They are useful for removing free radicals in the system before damaged cells can lead to aging. Herbal or natural products are becoming more popular by the day. They include various herbs and plant medicines that are used for reversing or preventing the symptoms of aging. Other anti-aging products are vitamin supplements, magnets, skin creams, live cell injections, special diets and so on. The major benefits of anti-aging products are topical in nature. They assist in the reduction of wrinkles which can make a person look 15 years younger or more. Physical benefits can lead to psychological benefits as someone who looks younger will be made to feel young which will boost the confidence and self-esteem of the user of the products. They can also be adapted to the need of an individual in order to solve certain problems. However, before making use of any of these products, it is important to carry out necessary research on them. The extended use of some of them can lead to serious damage of some organs of the body. For instance, the liver can be damaged; by large doses of vitamin A for an extended period. Let's face it. When we purchase anti aging wrinkle creams, we rarely ever look at the label. So long as our favorite celebrities are endorsing it, and those yummy anti-wrinkle ingredients are marked as advertised, then we're good to go. What you don't know can kill you, as one saying goes and while I don't want to be that melancholic about it, the truth is, there might be seriously hazardous compounds in your anti-wrinkle firming cream that you probably overlooked when you took it off the shelf. Some of them may cause something as easily treatable as a wee little rash, but others, something as deadly as cancer. Here are the most commonly present harmful compounds in anti-wrinkle creams:
 1. Parabens Dirt cheap and easy to develop, Parabens is incorporated in many moisturizing creams to prolong shelf life. The bad news?-It is a carcinogen that mimics estrogen, thus increasing breast cancer risk. It is also allergenic.
 2. Acrylamide While studies have mostly been conducted on mice, Acrylamide has been shown to cause cancers and tumors, and is also Neurotoxic.
 3. Fragrances We know how addicting it can be to apply scented cream on your face, but it's always wiser to choose odorless ones. Fragrances are often synthetic, with many of them formulated using cancerous ingredients such as toluene, a component found in some anti aging wrinkle creams and sunscreens. Not only does it cause liver and kidney damage and anemia, it also directly affects fetal development.
 4. Propylene Glycol Used as a moisturizing compound, fragrance and emulsifier, propylene glycol prevents healthy skin cells from growing and causes skin irritation. It also has the potential to damage the liver and kidneys and may cause cancer.
 5. Sodium Lauryl Sulphate (SLS) Found in at least 90 percent of anti-wrinkle firming creams and other skincare solutions this synthetic compound result to skin dryness and premature ageing. It also penetrates the skin's natural barrier and easily binds with harmful chemicals like nitrosamine, which is highly carcinogenic.
 6. Phenol (Carbolic Acid) Effective in killing bacteria and microorganisms, phenol is often added to skincare products as a cleansing agent and exfoliant. However, it causes skin dryness and irritation, not to mention convulsions and paralysis. In severe cases, prolonged heavy use may cause coma and respiratory arrest.
 7. Ethanolamines (diethanolamine/ DEA, monoethanolamine/ MEA, triethanolamine/ TEA) Incorporated in a few anti-wrinkle firming creams to create balanced skin pH, ethanolamine has been discontinued in skin care products in Europe due to its carcinogenic and allergenic properties. Reports reveal eye irritation, skin dryness and hypersensitivity reactions.
 8. Padimate-O A PABA derivative (itself a hazardous sunscreen ingredient), this water-soluble compound is commonly found in sunscreens as well as anti aging wrinkle creams that offer sun protection. Padimate-O releases free radicals in the body, which increases skin cancer risk. Before you grab your next jar of anti-wrinkle cream - or any other skin care product for that matter - check the labels for these ingredients. Maybe you won’t easily get any product that doesn't include any of the fore mentioned ingredients (the product does need them to work it’s just an excess that will likely damage your skin and cause other harmful effects on you). But a good product should have limited quantity of such products and be mild on your skin always go for recommended products.

A first date is any type of initial meeting between two individuals, whether or not previously acquainted. First dates are very important to any relationship because they often set the tone for the relationship thus it is important you create the best impression on your first date; that is the potential relational turning point.

When planning a first date, most guys tend to go with either dinner or a movie night-There is nothing wrong with either, but if you don’t want to be like most guys (predictable), you have to be more creative with your first date strategies. A good first date should allow for conversations and connection; You ought to have a balance of both-conversation and good connection. One quick tip; before you plan any first date, think about her interest and personality. If she’s not the outdoorsy type, then you have no reason planning an outdoorsy activity. If she’s not into art and culture there is not point dragging her to a museum.  Plan your date in line with her interest. If you can make your date feel comfortable on the date, and use these cool ideas to get her adrenaline pumping and top it up with quality romance, there is no way she won’t want a second date. Mix the date ideas so you can keep the date exciting, comfortable and romantic. That said, allow me show you some amazingly creative first date ideas that will completely blow her mind

1.      AMUSEMENT PARK: You can take your date to an amusement park, pick a few crazy rides together and before you know it, the chemistry will be sizzling with adrenaline.

2.     LIVE CONCERT: You can always take your date to a live concept of her favorite band- that’s if your date is into music. This kind of gesture is always appreciated.

3.     CARNIVALS: Carnivals can be a little pricy but it will be totally worth it. The explosion of colors is a wonderful thing to experience. You can spend hours together, act silly and still have a perfect date.

4.     KARAOKE: This is another great spot to have fun and you don’t have to be a great singer but if you are anyways, great she’d be thrilled however, if you’re not, you could just have a fun laughing at how terrible you sound. Either ways you still win.

5.     WATCH A GAME: If your date is really into sports, then take them to see their favorite team play(tip- preferable a game where their favorite team will win- you want them in a good mood)

6.     COMEDY: Taking your date to a stand-up comedy show is a perfect way to get them relaxed and excited. You can even make it “more perfect” by coupling it with dinner after or during the show.

7.     STAR GAZING: If it’s a clear warm night, then take your date stargazing. Go with a blanket, bug spray, a bottle of wine (and glasses of course) and telescope if you have one.

8.     WINE TASTING: Vineyard tours are quite exciting and romantic experience. Don’t get all pro just have fun with the whole tasting thing.

9.      BEACH: A day at the beach or an hour walking near the waves can make both of you comfortable with each other…don’t forget to hold hands.

10.  ICE CREAM PARLOR: Take your date back to their childhood. Take your date to an ice cream parlor and order a huge ice cream for him/her. You are sure to bring a grin up his/her face.

11.   COOK AND EAT: going to a cook and eat restaurant is always a wonderful experience. It will help you bond and laugh when you goof up and awe when you cook up a perfect little dish.

12.  FLY A PLANE:  Not fly, fly… You can take your date to some “plane flying” simulation centers. It’s always fun, the feel of piloting planes is something we all love.

13.  HORSE BACK RIDING: Take your date horse-back riding; women love it because it is such a sexy rush and men love it because it makes them feel manly.

14.  HISTORICAL SITES: A trip down history lane is always a good idea. History is interesting to virtually everyone. You can also grab a souvenir that will ensure your date has fond memories of your first date.

15.   BOOKSTORE: If your date is a book lover then a bookstore is perfect for a first date. There is something about being in the midst of books to a book lover that just makes them smile(am one so I can tell)

16.  NATURE WALK: if your date is an admirer of nature then take them a very beautiful and tranquil natural setting.

17.   AQUARIUM: Aquariums are naturally romantic settings thus taking your date to an aquarium will bring you guys closer.

18.   MUSEUM: A museum may not be the typical date idea, but no matter which museum you go to you are sure to find something interesting to see for a couple of hours.

19.  SHOOTING RANGE: This is adrenaline pumping at its best. If you want to get your date all worked up before a meal, head to a rifle range and fire a few rounds. Even if you don’t hit a target you inevitably look like a bad ass

20. HOT AIR BALLOON: This will make for an unforgettable first date. A hot air balloon and a glass of champagne on a first date is UN-FORGETTABLE.

There you have it, 20 top first date ideas that will wow your date. However always remember the most important first date tip- plan your date in line with their interest. All your efforts will be a waste if you plan something he/she has no interest in.  Ensure your new sweetheart leaves the date with something memorable (a souvenir) that way they have a lasting impression of your first date [check out:1o signs your date likes you on a first date]

A keen observation of Acne treatment information will show that acne cure takes two broad approaches - external and internal. The former relates to topical application of creams, lotions, face-masks, etc., while the latter is about treating the root internal cause of acne. Well, either approach is right, yet neither is complete. Considering external or topical treatment methods, they are thought to deliver active ingredients directly to the afflicted spot, setting to work immediately. Topical treatments are essential to maintain a skin care routine. Proper cleansers, exfoliators and moisturizers play a vital role in keeping your pores unclogged. In fact, conditions like hyperkeratinization need to be managed externally by delivering ingredients like S
alicylic acid to break the unnecessary cell bonds and keep your pores open. Another important advantage of topical remedies pertains to treating acne inflammation. Inflammation-a result of overreaction to the P. Acnes bacteria, needs some extent of external management through the application of anti-inflammatory preparations.
Coming to the internal approach, you are probably aware that it is considered to be a holistic approach. In other words, you address the systemic factors that contribute to hormonal imbalance, excessive sebum secretion and inflammation that are among the root causes of acne. Sometimes, acne happens to be one of the symptoms of underlying health problems. In such instances, you need to treat the internal issues by decreasing inflammation, controlling sebum production, balancing hormones or treating medical problems, if any.
That seems enough information to help you deduce the answer. Yes, a complete acne treatment regimen incorporates both external and internal methods. By far, your topical treatment products should be free from harsh chemical or synthetic ingredients that can potentially harm your skin. There is no dearth for home-made or herbal formulas to make your own facemasks, moisturizers, astringents, cleansers, or any skin-nourishing formulations for that matter.
Your internal treatment methods should aim to boost your bodily functions and immunity to combat hormonal imbalances and inflammations. For example, the right acne diet will deliver minerals, vitamins and other nutrients in the right proportion to keep skin problems at bay. Proteins and vitamins, especially antioxidant vitamins, help build immunity. On the other hand, excessive fat causes inflammation. Similarly, excessive carbohydrates disturb your blood sugar levels, which in turn affect the immune system and aggravate acne
True, all nutrients are essential, but your objective is to take them in the right quantities. Avoid saturated fats that can aggravate breakouts, but make sure that you include good fats and oils, like olive oil, avocado, nuts and fish. You can include specific natural ingredients in your diet to address acne problem; for example, green tea is said to prevent excessive production of androgen, which can disturb the hormonal balance. To address deficiencies, you can take acne supplements that contain oil-balancing vitamins, essential fatty acids or detox properties.
The bottom line is that topical acne remedies address your skin's reactions to hormonal imbalance, while internal remedies work to balance the hormones. My advice- Go for a complete acne treatment regimen incorporates both external and internal methods.

Approaching someone for the first time is tough and nerve wrecking but the result is infinitely worth the risk. Many men have tried and tried really hard yet failed miserably at starting up a conversation with a woman they just come across either at a party, a bar or on the street. When it comes to starting a conversation with a girl one just met, some guys wonder; should I go with a cool pick up line or some confident walk up followed by some smooth talking. Well either could work but many times it won`t because you are predictable. Why? That is the same exact thing most guys will do and women are probably already sick and tired of cheesy pick up lines. You have to come with a different approach one that keeps her surprises her yet makes her comfortable. Warm her up to the conversation, let her know you intend to walk up to her and say hello to her, allow your eyes do the initial talking, give her sweet stares( not the I want you in bed stare- just I admire you stare). If she reciprocates your stare, it means she is anticipating you and wondering when you are going to walk up to her- This will actually build up the excitement and make her wait for you instead. Now if you decide to make the move and crack up a conversation with her here are a few pointers on how to start up a conversation with a girl [if you are still struggling with shyness around women then you must: Swallow the frog and overcome shyness with women]

INTRODUCE YOURSELF

Approach the girl with a smile (there is nothing more charming than warm and sincere smile) and say hello. Tell her your name and ask for hers; Keep it simple. A genuine polite greeting beats a cheesy pick up line any day.

ASK HOW SHE’S DOING

Asking a girl how she’s doing doesn’t only make a good impression, it tells her that you are genuinely interested in her. A polite “how is your day going?” is a nice way to get her talking.

FIND A COMMON GROUND

You can comment about the weather, class work or event depending on where you are meeting her. Just make your comment be more like a question so you can get her opinion

POSE AN INTERESTING QUESTION

Now ask her an unusual/thought provoking question. This will surely break the ice as she is both surprised and impressed at the same time. Ask something like “if you had the power to change something on earth what would that be?” or what are the top three places you would like to visit before you grow old?

AVOID CONTROVERSIAL TOPICS

Bringing up controversial topics such as politics or religion can make her feel uncomfortable or even get her angry. Talk about nature, weather and wild life or even history. These topics are less sensitive.

AVOID YES OR NO QUESTIONS

Avoid questions that can be answered with simple yes or no. try to ask more open-ended questions that require longer, more thoughtful answers.

COMPLIMENT HER

Now is the time to throw in some sweet compliment to make her feel like a princess but be careful your compliments don’t sound lame and out of place. It’s best you channel your compliment along the line of your discussion. Tell her, how smart her answers to your questions were or tell her you nice and friendly she is for talking to you. If she smile s to any of your compliments then add how lovely her smile is, don’t get carried away, one or two precise compliment is probably all that you need.

ASK A PERSONAL QUESTION

If you have follow the previous steps well, she’s probably already comfortable talking to you by now so try to throw in a personal question-it will tell her you want to get to know her better. However, don’t go on and on with your questions- the goal is to engage her not intrude.

OPEN UP

Open up about yourself give the girl more and more reasons to like you. Respond to her questions and let her get to know you a little. But don’t get carried away talking about yourself nobody likes anyone that is full of themselves even if you are, you don’t want to show her that now.

MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT

It is important to maintain eye contact before and during the conversation. If she notice you are looking away she might take it you are not interested in the conversation or she’s boring you. Don’t send the wrong message. Keep that smile on your face and maintain a good eye contact.

I hope these tips work well for you………………..best of luck guys.

Shyness is a debilitating condition for many man, it prevents them from functioning well in social situations, and from voicing their real concerns in public. Shyness is also one of men’s greatest weaknesses when it comes to women. This is the reason why most men find it difficult to approach a woman.

The root of men’s shyness when approaching women, are his negative thoughts. Just before a guy makes his move on a lady, they are three questions that ring in his head:

        i.            What if am rejected- his mind quickly plays a scene of the woman rejecting him and how ashamed he would feel

     ii.            What if she ignores me or worse, what if she just laughs at me?

   iii.            What if I say the wrong things (for some others it’s; I don’t even know what to say to her).

These negative possibilities that play in his mind gets him nervous, hesitant and most often times he backs out.

Shyness has stopped most good men with great qualities from dating the woman of their dreams. If you are the shy type and you secretly fear that you may not be able to date the girl of your dreams just because you can’t summon enough courage to approach her. Then the time to come out of your hole is now- **swallow that frog** Here are few tips to help you overcome your shyness when approaching a woman

GET OUT AND SOCIALIZE

Join activities in which you are always interacting with people. Be prepared to exchange pleasantries with people in your activity group. Don’t be afraid to chat up (start a conversation) with people in your activity group. A simple hello, how is it going? is enough to start a conversation.

                    

TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME

Start with a smile; show everyone you are friendly and approachable then you can move on to saying “hi” from there “making complements” then “small talks”. As you keep going you’d see it’s not as hard as you thought.

If beautiful women intimidate you take baby steps up the beauty scale. Start by approaching more average-looking women you feel confident with. As you become at ease with them, you can then move on to prettier women.

                   THIS IS WHY YOU AREN'T GETTING LAID

DON’T SEXUALIZE WOMEN TOO MUCH

When you talk to a woman, try not see her as a sexual trophy, but as a person like yourself. If you focus so much on her sexuality, you tend to lose your cool and she’d know you’re just after sex.

NOTHING SPECIAL

Don’t attach any special significance to the woman you talk to. If you act like she’s too good for you, she’s start thinking that as well. The best is to see her as human being with all the flaws and qualities of the average person.

LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

When you talk to a woman, don’t expect an end goal. Just go with the flow. You’ll be amazed at how much easier things get when you don’t think of accomplish something by the end.

DON’T TAKE THINGS TOO PERSONAL

If you want to succeed in the game of romance, you can’t take every comment, insinuation or joke to heart. Have a good sense of humor and just know that women sometimes say things they don’t actually mean.

DON’T LET THE FEAR REJECTION STOP YOU

You can’t expect to succeed every time, but you will never succeed if you do not try. Don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from making a move. View every encounter with as a positive learning experience.

                          MAKE WOMEN RUN AFTER YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FOCUS LESS ON YOUR SELF

Shyness and hesitation occurs when you think about your flaws (don’t think so much about your diction, or how not so good your lines are). Focus more on the woman you are talking to; You’ll forget about your jitters and she’ll be flattered by the attention.

I trust these few tips will help you build your confidence when you approach a woman. Sure it will time some time and persistence but the reward as we all know is definitely worth it….good luck out there guys.

Men want to have a satisfying sexual life with their partners, unfortunately, not all couples are able to achieve a great sex life. Lovemaking is important in every relationship because it is a medium for couples to connect with each other physically and emotionally. It is important to satisfy your partner in bed, to give her the pleasure she deserves. There are several women out there, who aren’t enjoying satisfying sex with their partners. Don't believe me? Ask them yourselves.

 Now, it doesn't mean that they don't like sex or they wouldn’t want to reach cloud nine during sex-they would love that so very much. It just; no one (man) has been patient or technical enough to give them that elusive pleasure. It's easy for you as a guy to achieve an orgasm. ..Hell! You can practically do it in your sleep. However it’s a whole different ball gain when it comes to women.

 As a man you might feel inadequate/down when you fail to give her “earth shattering orgasms” but it is important not to feel down because the act of giving a woman an orgasm has to be taught and learned, only through practice will you be able to master this very beautiful act. Hence the very often asked- how do you achieve this goal of satisfying your woman, how do you give her earth shattering orgasms every time?  Believe me guys when I say this- if you can give your woman (or any woman for that matter) earth shattering orgasms everytime you have sex with her- you my friend, will be her hero. She will literally do anything to make you happy and keep you in the relationship with her. Take your woman straight to cloud nine by following these steps

v Take time to familiarize yourself with her body. I know that just seeing that beautiful naked body lying there waiting to be swept away by your manliness is enough to make you let one loose but resist the temptation. You don’t want to mess things up just because you couldn’t control yourself. Observe her reactions to even the simplest of your touches. However long it takes for her to reach that special place you must be willing to give her the time that she needs.

v  Get rid of your insecurities. The feeling of insecurity may come from the fact that you find it difficult to bring her to orgasms and as a man, you felt inadequate. Insecurities can damage your confidence and without confidence, it can be really hard to satisfy your partner sexually. Try not to be too hard on yourself, because most women naturally find it difficult to orgasm during lovemaking and there are women who are not fortunate to experience orgasms at all. Instead of blaming yourself, think of it as a challenge and a learning process.

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v  Stop putting too much pressure on yourself in the bedroom. Too much pressure can lead to one's poor performance in the bedroom. Why not just enjoy the intimate moments in the bedroom with your partner and stop worrying about your performance. The more you worry about it the more you will end up doing the wrong things in the bedroom. Your partner can sense your stress from the pressure you are putting on yourself and it will also affect her intimacy level and performance in bed. Free yourself from any pressure if you want to give her earth shattering orgasms.

v  Honestly, discuss with your spouse about sex. To create a satisfying sex life with your partner, it is a must to openly communicate about sex. Share what you want in bed and what really turns you on with your partner. Openly share even your sexual fantasies. If you are honest enough to share your most intimate secrets with your partner, she will be obliged to give the same honesty and share even her sexual fantasies. If you both can communicate honestly and openly about sex, it would be easier to give her earth shattering orgasms every lovemaking session.

v  Women need longer foreplay to be ready for orgasm. If you want to give her earth shattering orgasms, you need to physically and mentally stimulate her. Some men have this wrong notion that just kissing and caressing her private parts will do the trick of bringing her to orgasms. Women need more than physical stimulation, you need to stimulate her mind too. Foreplay is not only engaging her body but also her mind to get aroused and crazily want to make love with you. You have to make her feel loved, admired and desired. Make her feel that she is the sexiest woman and she never fails to turn you on.

v  Learn to last longer in bed. Most men ejaculate and reach orgasm faster than women (well naturally that’s how we are wired- don’t ask, ‘cos I don’t know why either). Women need some 18 minutes or more to reach orgasm while men could orgasm in 2-4 minutes (some men even ejaculate in seconds). If you will finish first before she could even reach her own orgasm, chances are she’ll never orgasm at all. Learn to last longer and delay your ejaculation to wait for her to orgasm together with you. Lovemaking is more satisfying if both of you reach orgasm at the same time. It is much easier to give her earth shattering orgasms if you can last longer in bed.

Depression often looks different in men and women, and in young people and older adults. An awareness of these differences helps ensure that the problem is recognized and treated.

Depression in Men

Depression is a loaded word in our culture. Many associate it, however wrongly, with a sign of weakness and excessive emotion. This is especially true with men. Depressed men are less likely than women to acknowledge feelings of self-loathing and hopelessness. Instead, they tend to complain about fatigue, irritability, sleep problems, and loss of interest in work and hobbies. Other signs and symptoms of depression in men include anger, aggression, violence, reckless behavior, and substance abuse. Even though depression rates for women are twice as high as those in men, men are a higher suicide risk, especially older men.

Depression in Women

Rates of depression in women are twice as high as they are in men. This is due in part to hormonal factors, particularly when it comes to Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS), Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), postpartum depression, and per menopausal depression. As for signs and symptoms, women are more likely than men to experience pronounced feelings of guilt, sleep excessively, overeat, and gain weight. Women are also more likely to suffer from seasonal affective disorder.

Depression in Teens

While some depressed teens appear sad, others do not. In fact, irritability—rather than depression—is frequently the predominant symptom in depressed adolescents and teens. A depressed teenager may be hostile, grumpy, or easily lose his or her temper. Unexplained aches and pains are also common symptoms of depression in young people.
Left untreated, teen depression can lead to problems at home and school, drug abuse, self-loathing—even irreversible tragedy such as homicidal violence or suicide. But with help, teenage depression is highly treatable.

Depression in Older Adults

The difficult changes that many older adults face—such as bereavement, loss of independence, and health problems—can lead to depression, especially in those without a strong support system. However, depression is not a normal part of aging. Older adults tend to complain more about the physical rather than the emotional signs and symptoms of depression, and so the problem often goes unrecognized. Depression in older adults is associated with poor health, a high mortality rate, and an increased risk of suicide, so diagnosis and treatment are extremely important.

Postpartum Depression

Many new mothers suffer from some fleeting form of the “baby blues.” Postpartum depression, in contrast, is a longer lasting and more serious depression triggered, in part, by hormonal changes associated with having a baby. Postpartum depression usually develops soon after delivery, but any depression that occurs within six months of childbirth may be postpartum depression.

Next up we consider the most common types of depression people often face:

 TYPES OF DEPRESSION

Depression comes in many shapes and forms. The different types of depression have unique symptoms, causes, and effects. Knowing what type of depression you have can help you manage your symptoms and get the most effective treatment.

Major Depression

Major depression is characterized by the inability to enjoy life and experience pleasure. The symptoms are constant, ranging from moderate to severe. Left untreated, major depression typically lasts for about six months. Some people experience just a single depressive episode in their lifetime, but more commonly, major depression is a recurring disorder. However, there are many things you can do to support your mood and reduce the risk of recurrence.

Dysthymia (recurrent, mild depression)

Dysthmia is a type of chronic “low-grade” depression. More days than not, you feel mildly or moderately depressed, although you may have brief periods of normal mood. The symptoms of dysthymia are not as strong as the symptoms of major depression, but they last a long time (at least two years). These chronic symptoms make it very difficult to live life to the fullest or to remember better times. Some people also experience major depressive episodes on top of dysthymia, a condition known as “double depression.” If you suffer from dysthymia, you may feel like you’ve always been depressed. Or you may think that your continuous low mood is “just the way you are.” However, dysthymia can be treated, even if your symptoms have gone unrecognized or untreated for years.

Bipolar Disorder: When Depression is Just One Side of the Coin

Bipolar disorder, also known as manic depression, is characterized by cycling mood changes. Episodes of depression alternate with manic episodes, which can include impulsive behavior, hyperactivity, rapid speech, and little or no sleep. Typically, the switch from one mood extreme to the other is gradual, with each manic or depressive episode lasting for at least several weeks. When depressed, a person with bipolar disorder exhibits the usual symptoms of major depression. However, the treatments for bipolar depression are very different. In fact, antidepressants can make bipolar depression worse.

DEPRESSION CAUSES AND RISK FACTORS

Some illnesses have a specific medical cause, making treatment straightforward. If you have diabetes, you take insulin. If you have appendicitis, you have surgery. Depression, however, is more complicated. Depression is not just the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain, and it’s not simply cured with medication. Experts believe that depression is caused by a combination of biological, psychological, and social factors. In other words, your lifestyle choices relationships and coping skills matter just as much—if not more so—than genetics. However, certain risk factors make you more vulnerable to depression.

CAUSES AND RISK FACTORS FOR DEPRESSION

• Loneliness
• Lack of social support
• Recent stressful life experiences
• Family history of depression
• Marital or relationship problems
• Financial strain
• Early childhood trauma or abuse
• Alcohol or drug abuse
• Unemployment or underemployment